Common Owner Behaviors That Stress Dogs

August 18, 2024

Dog owners often have the best intentions, but even the most loving dog parents can inadvertently stress their pets. Unrecognized and unmanaged stress can lead to behavioral issues that complicate training. So, what are some ways that dog owners and training enthusiasts may stress their dogs?

Common Owner Behaviors That Stress Dogs

Consistency is the cornerstone of effective dog training. Yet, many dog owners and even some inexperienced dog handlers unknowingly send mixed signals. For example, allowing a dog to jump on guests one day but scolding them for it the next creates confusion. This inconsistency can lead to anxiety and stress, as the dog struggles to understand what is expected of them.

Inconsistent Training

Inconsistent training can manifest in various ways, such as using different commands for the same behavior, enforcing rules sporadically or having family members follow different protocols. These inconsistencies can significantly hinder the learning process, especially for behaviors that need to be generalized across different environments. 

Pro Tip

Establish clear, consistent rules and stick to them. If you don’t want your dog jumping on guests, ensure everyone in the household enforces the same rule every time. Create a training plan that outlines specific cues, rewards, and boundaries for all family members or caretakers to follow. Regularly practice commands in various settings to help generalize behaviors. 

Remember, consistent training is a crucial step in creating a stress-free learning environment for your dog.

Rushing the Training Process

Training takes time and patience—two things that are often in short supply. Some dog owners and handlers expect immediate results and push their dogs too quickly through the stages of learning. 

A few years ago, I worked with a trainer I once admired. Unfortunately, instead of regularly working with the dogs to help them learn, they were often left in their crates for most of the day, sometimes even all day. When they were finally taken out to train, the fast pace and harsh consequences led to stress and fear. Needless to say, my admiration quickly turned to disgust. We are committed to ensuring that our ISCDT trainers never resort to such a horrifying approach to dog training.

Rushing through training methods, even if you are kind about it, not only stresses the dog but can also hinder their ability to learn and retain new behaviors. This style of training can manifest in several ways: 

  • moving to advanced commands before basics are mastered, 
  • introducing too many distractions too soon, or 
  • failing to properly generalize behaviors across different environments. 

This accelerated pace can lead to inconsistent performance, increased frustration for both dog and trainer and potentially the need to start over from scratch. 

Moreover, rushing often results in an imbalance in the learning scales, with dog owners and some  trainers becoming overly critical or resorting to outdated, punishment-based techniques in an attempt to speed up progress.

Pro Tip

Focus on shaping behavior gradually. Start with simple tasks, and once the dog masters them, slowly introduce distractions to generalize the behavior. 

Remember, training is a marathon, not a sprint. Use marker training to clearly communicate successes. 

Ensure each stage of training is thoroughly mastered before moving on. Practice new behaviors in various settings to promote generalization. Pay attention to your dog’s stress signals and be prepared to slow down or take a step back if needed. 

By taking a patient, methodical approach, you’ll build a stronger foundation for learning and a more confident, less stressed dog.

Generalizing Behavior

Dogs are incredibly context-dependent, meaning they often associate behaviors with the specific environments in which they were learned. A dog that sits perfectly at home might struggle to do so in a park filled with distractions. This challenge arises because the behavior hasn’t been generalized (practiced in various environments and under different circumstances). 

Without this crucial step, dogs can become stressed when they’re suddenly expected to perform in unfamiliar situations, leading to frustration for both the dog and the handler

I cannot tell you how many times I have taught the foundation of the place command, only to have the owner suggest they bring a friend over to test the dog – fifteen minutes later. 

Generalization is vital because dogs don’t naturally understand that a command learned in one place applies everywhere. For example, a dog might quickly learn to sit in public but may fail to do so on a rainy night. The sights, sounds and smells of a new environment can overwhelm the dog, making it difficult for them to remember the command. 

This is not a sign of defiance; rather, it’s a natural response to an unfamiliar context.

Research has shown that dogs are more likely to exhibit reliable behaviors across various settings when those behaviors have been reinforced in multiple environments. This process of generalization involves gradually introducing new stimuli and increasing the complexity of the environment while maintaining the expected behavior. By doing this, you’re helping the dog understand that the command is relevant regardless of the surrounding distractions.  

Moreover, failing to generalize behavior can lead to what’s known as “context shift,” where the dog may not recognize a command in a new environment due to the change in context. This can be particularly stressful for the dog, as they might be eager to comply but are unable to understand what is being asked of them in the new setting.

Pro Tip 

Once a behavior is learned, practice it in various settings with different levels of distractions, such as parks, busy streets or around other animals. Start with mild distractions and gradually increase the difficulty as the dog becomes more comfortable. This helps the dog understand that the command applies in any environment, reducing stress and improving their overall reliability in diverse situations.

Generalizing behavior is an essential skill for every dog handler to master, as it ensures that the dogs we work with can perform consistently and confidently, no matter the situation. This not only enhances the dog’s training but also strengthens the bond between the dog and owner.

Imbalanced Learning Scales

Some trainers or owners are overly critical, focusing too much on what the dog does wrong and not enough on what they do right. This approach can lead to a dog that is anxious, fearful of making mistakes and hesitant to engage in training.  

A dog constantly exposed to criticism may also develop learned helplessness, where they stop trying to perform behaviors altogether because they fear the outcome will always be negative.

Conversely, some trainers may err on the side of leniency, showering the dog with praise and treats  without setting clear boundaries. While positive reinforcement is crucial, over-rewarding without clear expectations can lead to confusion and a lack of discipline. Dogs thrive on structure, and when they are not given clear guidelines, they may struggle to understand what is expected of them. This lack of direction can result in a dog that is overexcited, unresponsive, or unable to follow commands reliably, especially in distracting or challenging situations.

Research in animal behavior indicates that an optimal learning environment is one where positive reinforcement is used to encourage desired behaviors, while consequences and reminders are used sparingly and appropriately to guide the dog away from undesired actions. The goal is to build a dog’s confidence through success, rather than undermining it with constant criticism or overwhelming it with unchecked praise. 

Pro Tip

Use marker training to clearly communicate when the dog has done something right. Also shape the behavior so the dog understands the final expected outcome. 

Marker training, which involves using a specific signal (like a clicker or a verbal cue) to mark the exact moment a desired behavior occurs, helps the dog understand precisely what behavior is being rewarded. 

Be fair but firm in your consequences, and ensure they are balanced with positive reinforcement. Corrections should be non-punitive and should serve to redirect the dog’s behavior rather than instill fear or anxiety. 

The key is consistency and clarity—reward the behaviors you want to see more of. Gently remove those you don’t, all while maintaining a positive and supportive training environment.

By maintaining balanced learning scales, trainers can foster a dog’s ability to learn and perform with confidence and enthusiasm, leading to a more successful and rewarding training experience for both the dog and the trainer.

Using Outdated Techniques
Common Owner Behaviors That Stress Dogs

Despite the wealth of modern training methods available, some people still rely on outdated techniques, such as dominance-based training or punishment. These methods, rooted in the now-debunked “alpha dog” theory, cause unnecessary stress.

 Dominance-based training operates on the mistaken belief that dogs are constantly seeking to assert dominance over their owners, leading to an approach focused on establishing control through force or intimidation. This method is not only ineffective but also harmful, as it fails to address the underlying causes of unwanted behaviors and instead suppresses them through fear.

When dogs are punished for undesirable behaviors without understanding what they did wrong, they can become fearful of their owners and the training process. This fear can manifest in behavioral issues that are far more challenging to address than the original problem. Furthermore, punishing the dog without providing an alternate behavior often fails to teach the dog an alternative, acceptable behavior, leaving them confused and stressed.

In contrast, modern training methods emphasize positive reinforcement, clear communication and an understanding of canine behavior rooted in research. Studies have shown that dogs trained with positive reinforcement are more likely to be obedient, less likely to exhibit fear-based behaviors and more likely to enjoy the training process. 

Pro Tip

Educate yourself on modern raining methods. Techniques like marker training, shaping and generalizing are more effective and foster a healthier, happier relationship with the dog. 

Additionally, stay informed about the latest research in canine behavior and training to ensure that your methods are both humane and effective. Embracing these modern techniques not only enhances the training experience but also helps to build a more confident, well-adjusted dog who trusts and enjoys working with their trainer.

For those serious about becoming professional dog trainers, understanding the pitfalls of outdated techniques and the benefits of modern methods is crucial. By adopting the modern approach to dog training, you not only improve your training outcomes but also contribute to the well-being and happiness of the dogs in your care.

Neglecting the Dog’s Emotional Needs

Dogs are not just physical beings; they have complex emotional needs that must be met to ensure their well-being. Unfortunately, these emotional needs are often overlooked, particularly by those who focus solely on obedience and physical health. Ignoring signs of emotional distress, such as excessive barking, destructive behavior or withdrawal, can exacerbate anxiety and lead to long-term behavioral issues that are far more difficult to correct.

Dogs, like humans, experience a range of emotions, including fear, joy, anxiety and even depression. When their emotional needs are neglected, they may exhibit behaviors that are often misinterpreted as mere disobedience or stubbornness. 

For example, excessive barking might be a sign of anxiety or loneliness rather than a simple habit. Destructive behavior, such as chewing on furniture or digging holes, can be a manifestation of boredom or stress,. This is especially true in dogs that do not receive enough mental stimulation or physical exercise.

Moreover, a dog that withdraws or becomes unusually quiet is often signaling distress. This behavior is sometimes mistaken for obedience or calmness when, in fact, the dog may be suffering from emotional neglect. Over time, unmet emotional needs can lead to more severe issues, such as chronic anxiety, aggression or even learned helplessness. In these. cases, the dog no longer attempts to interact or engage due to a perceived lack of control over their environment.

Recent studies in canine behavior have underscored the importance of addressing a dog’s emotional well-being as a key component of effective training. Dogs that feel secure and emotionally supported are more likely to be responsive to training, exhibit fewer behavioral problems, and develop stronger bonds with their owners or trainers.

Pro Tip

Pay close attention to your dog’s body language and behavior, as these are the primary ways dogs communicate their emotional state. Recognize signs of stress, such as lip licking, yawning, pacing or sudden changes in behavior. Then take proactive steps to address the root cause. This may involve:

  • improving the training regimen,
  • increasing physical exercise,
  • providing mental stimulation through games,
  • using interactive toys, or
  • simply spending more quality time with your dog to strengthen the bond and provide reassurance.

For aspiring dog trainers, understanding and meeting the emotional needs of dogs is not just an ethical obligation but a practical necessity. By fostering an environment where dogs feel safe, valued and understood. Trainers can significantly enhance the effectiveness of their training programs and contribute to the overall happiness and well-being of the dogs in their care. This approach is key to developing well-rounded, confident dogs that thrive both during training and in their everyday lives.

Failing to Manage the Space

Many dog owners and novice handlers overlook the importance of managing the home environment, often granting dogs too much freedom too soon. This premature freedom can lead to a range of behavioral issues, as dogs may not yet have the training or maturity to handle unrestricted access to their surroundings. 

Allowing a dog to roam freely throughout the home without proper supervision or boundaries can result in destructive behaviors, such as chewing furniture, soiling the house or getting into dangerous situations. 

These behaviors are often not a reflection of a “bad dog” but rather a dog that hasn’t been taught how to behave appropriately within the space they are given.

For instance, a dog that isn’t fully house trained should not be given free rein to wander the house unsupervised. Similarly, dogs that have not learned basic commands like “leave it” or “stay” should be kept away from tempting objects like shoes or food on counters. 

By managing the environment—using crates, baby gates, tethering a dog to your belt  or designated play areas—you can prevent bad habits from forming and set your dog up for success. This structured approach not only reduces stress for the dog but also helps them learn what is expected of them in a controlled and positive way.

Beyond the home

Managing how and when your dog interacts with the outside world is equally important. Allowing strangers, children or other animals to approach your dog without the dog’s  permission can be overwhelming, especially if your dog is not used to such interactions. This can lead to fear, aggression or simply reinforce unwanted behaviors like jumping or pulling on the leash. Dogs thrive on structure and predictability, and random, uncontrolled interactions can disrupt their sense of security and cause anxiety.

Pro Tip

Always set your dog up for success by managing their environment. In the home, use barriers, leashes and restricted access to create a safe, controlled space where your dog can learn and grow without the risk of developing bad habits. Gradually introduce them to more freedom as they demonstrate the ability to handle it responsibly. 

When outside or in public spaces, be mindful of who or what is allowed to approach your dog. Teach your dog to remain calm and responsive in the presence of strangers, children, and other animals, and ensure all interactions are positive and controlled. This way, your dog can build confidence at their own pace, reducing stress and reinforcing good behavior.

Managing both the home environment and social interactions is crucial for preventing stress and ensuring your dog develops into a well-behaved, confident companion. For those aiming to become professional dog trainers, mastering these skills is essential for guiding clients through the process of raising a well-adjusted dog.

Not Increasing Treat Value in Challenging Settings

As training progresses to more distracting environments, many dog owners fail to adjust their reward system accordingly, which can be a critical oversight. A small, dry biscuit might work well for training in a quiet living room, but it may not be enticing enough when competing with the exciting smells and sounds of a dog park. The more distractions present, the higher the value of the reward needs to be to capture and maintain your dog’s attention.

When the reward doesn’t match the challenge level, dogs may lose interest in training, leading to stress and reduced effectiveness of the training session. For example, if your dog is used to receiving a treat they eat all day, such as a standard kibble or even a meaty treat, they may quickly lose motivation when faced with the challenge of performing commands in a highly stimulating environment. 

My dog eats a raw diet, yet when she smells plain kibble in my pocket, she is eager to work. Likewise, when I open the container consisting of duck legs, which she only gets twice a week, she spins in circles, eager to learn what will get her that reward.  

Using the same food the dog gets throughout the day, can cause the dog to disengage, making it difficult to reinforce desired behaviors. This potentially stalls progress in their training. If you are careful to prevent overfeeding your dog and leaving a full bowl on the floor throughout the day, you may not experience low drive while training.


While high-value treats like small pieces of chicken, cheese, or specially designed training treats are more likely to hold your dog’s focus in challenging settings, food is not the end-all, be-all. Toys and affection can be equally effective, provided they are not given in excess.

Dog training rewards are effective when it is something the dog finds irresistible. The goal is to make the reward so appealing that your dog is eager to work for it, even when faced with significant distractions.

Pro Tip

As you move your training sessions to more complex environments with higher levels of distraction, increase the value of your rewards accordingly. 

Reserve special treats that your dog loves and doesn’t get often for these more challenging settings. This helps maintain their interest and motivation, making the training process more effective and less stressful for both you and your dog. 

Remember, what works in a calm, controlled environment may not be sufficient when the stakes are higher, so always have a variety of reward options to match the situation.

Understanding the importance of using high-value rewards in distracting settings is crucial for those pursuing a career in dog training. By tailoring your reward system to the environment and each dog you are training, you can significantly enhance your client dog’s responsiveness and overall success in training, ensuring 

Conclusion

Understanding how dog owners and novice handlers may be unintentionally stressing dogs is the first step in becoming a better trainer. 

By focusing on consistency, patience, modern training techniques, proper space management  and appropriate reward systems, you can help create a stress-free environment that allows your dog to thrive.

If you’re serious about deepening your knowledge and skills in dog training, consider pursuing formal education. Our program is designed to equip you with the tools and understanding needed to train dogs effectively and compassionately, addressing all these aspects and more.  Visit ISCDT.com to learn more.

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